You have chosen Path 1: The Digression
You have chosen Path 1: The Digression
By now you might be thinking, “Won’t she just get on with it already? I am dying of anticipation.” well, here it goes….
I AM A MULTIFACETED PERSON WHO HAPPENS TO HAVE A CHRONIC AILMENT.
And so are You: Say this to yourself loudly and repeat every day. Because your condition, ailment, dis-ease is NOT you. It is not something you own. It’s a part of your experience as you continue on your own fibro fire-starting journey.
Here’s mine…
I am a multi-faceted person with multiple interests who just happens to experience fibro symptoms, like you. My story is not much different than yours. My journey is probably like yours. With perhaps some different fits and starts….
Among other things… I’m a make-up junkie. Its part of my creative nature and is something I cannot shake no matter the severity of my symptoms at times. In my early 20’s I was battling with two sides of my personality: the structured analytical side vs. the creative dreamy side. In short, the Logical vs. the Artistic.
I had done some modelling and secretly desired to be a make-up artist and photographer who also loved to dance and perform. This baffled me because I wasn’t “the artistic one” in my family. I had been labelled by my mother in her “Prime of Miss Jean Brodie” fashion as “the intellectual daughter” who had a strong will and loved school; who as a toddler would carry around her coloring books and tell people she had homework to do when asked what she was carrying around in her arms; who knew from a young age that she would be going to university; and was teased by her siblings as “Encyclopedia Brown” because she read all the time and who couldn’t help pontificating on what she read aloud to those around her …. this label seemed to be a natural fit and it developed into an early belief of my own self that I was not creative but rather merely practical, reliable, dependable. But as we know, in Miss Brodie’s Edinburgh, the dependable Sandy begins to rebel at her labeling and forced position as confidante. She desires to be more like the Brodite that is permitted to be wild and free. And I roamed wild and free in few places away from family including the outdoors and while reading books. I yearned for anything that allowed me to be in the flow, as I soon discovered.
Indeed, my fascination with mythology, mysticism, and symbolism developed at a very young age first with the icons of the Catholic faith and then when I read my older college-attending brother’s book on Greek Mythology and History, the nebulous worlds of the unknown. Those stories –because to me history is a vivid collection of stories from a different place, time, and culture– intrigued me and the pictures were fascinating. The demons always started out as innocent or plain human beings who because of their choices were struck down by the Gods in some horrific manner. There was duality in them. Perhaps this is what affected my reading of the Bible as interpretable and not set-in-stone at an early age. Who knows? But something deep inside me questioned everything. I saw duality in everything, and yet was to recognize and embrace it in myself.
The irony of my strictly-imposed maternal categorization which I swallowed as truth is …. my father was an artist, who happened to be a salesman. He also happened to be a natural wanderer and when challenged longed to be outdoors or immersed in his oils. One of the last paintings he immersed himself in prior to his demise in his mid 40’s proudly hangs in our master bedroom providing a daily source of warmth and inspiration. He always gave me “artistic” gifts and crafts for presents to encourage the softness in those logical edges that I believe he saw in me.
I still remember the wood burning kit I had received when I was about 7/8. I loved smelling the burning wood as I traced the patterns on the little wooden tile boards completely absorbed by the odor, burning the pattern in front of me (heart, bird, house, tree, dog, cat), hearing the long sizzle–ssssszsssss, and seeing the steam rise. It was hypnotic, empowering, and other-worldly on those bitter winter afternoons. One day in my haste I accidentally slipped my finger onto the stylus and unaware continued the slow burning pattern. I ended up with a purple burn blister on my writing finger which I tried to cool by running out of the house and thrusting my hand into the snow. I knew that my mom would freak out if she saw the horrendous blob so I hid my right hand for a few weeks in my pocket or my lap until it healed. Man, did it hurt! I didn’t realize it then but I had been completely in the flow and had got burned. I had suffered for my art. How thrilling!
The kit eventually got sold at an estate sale without my knowledge during my parents’ divorce. Once reconciled with that fact, I went onto my other artistic craft of writing. See, I didn’t really realize that these were artistic/creative endeavors, they were just things I did. I was always writing down stories and making up stories to entertain my younger sister before bedtime. I made up mysteries inspired by Nancy Drew and the Hardy Boys. I read every light blue covered book owned by my brothers that I could get my hands on after I had finished reading my older sister’s tomes. Who didn’t envision themselves as those adventurous kids who solved mysteries and helped people with problems? My heroine always went by the name of Nancy Blake. She also was my favored name choice when engaging in role playing. I still don’t have any idea why I chose it.
My oldest brother gave me “Alfred Hitchcock and the Three Investigators” one time as a random present. I didn’t know who Alfred Hitchcock was but I knew that the boys strove to impress him with their problem-solving skills and that they had to think outside the box to get there. Mysteries applied with cold decisive logic was something I gravitated towards. In retrospect, a natural progression was occurring that I was unaware of and would be further clouded by our constant moving.
It goes without saying how much I loved Scooby Doo reruns; one of my fave cartoons although sometimes a little toooo spoooky and I’d have to run outside into the Saturday sunlight so the monsters wouldn’t get me. ahhh, kid logic, huh? When I’d walk in the woods around our property I’d sometimes get freaked by the misty air and would have to do the same. I’d streak through the trees to find the ray of sunshine on the edge of the woods risking grave injury and possibly even death. I’d emerge into the warm spot where the almost transparent insects swirled in a great cloud in the massive sun’s shower of power. Then I’d return with a sunbeam filled stick to wave away the forest demons. I didn’t want them to get the forest animals, birds, and shady insects and moths. I’d rush to the center-most maple tree in the forest and start my crusade. I needed a home base, to begin from, so that the sunbeam-filled stick reconnected the wise sage to its essential light source. Even the clouds if they were the right color could block its homing connection if they wanted to. And, I, the Protector of the Arbol, had to ensure that the tree’s dwindling light strength was connected to its source at all times. When the Arbol was connected to the source, in a way I felt so too. Another theme was slowly emerging from my youthful adventures, being connected to the source and how that provided for me the utmost in sustenance.
In junior high, I wanted to be two things for my career ambitions: a lawyer and a writer.
I was always under the impression that a lawyer was merely analytical. I adored Perry Mason. So logically incisive, determined, cold in his calculation and he nabbed people in their lies with his skill and logical power. My grandma and I would watch reruns together on her colored TV. I followed his every move after school and was impressed by the wood-paneled office with the early African art decor, and the sharpness of his suits. He had his own private investigator and sharp secretary who was a strong skilled woman, always applying her pen with an adept hand. You knew whatever direction Perry gave would be done to the letter by Della. They wore swanky clothes, Paul Drake wore bark cloth blazers; they had slick cars and dined in refined restaurants. They were witty and a powerful team. What a sophisticated high brow lifestyle!
I began to learn and understand that practicing law, as I had seen on Perry Mason and other lawyer shows, was also called the art of practicing law as I went on to read legal books that my brother had given me as more educational gifts. Law as an art — how cool is that? The perfect blend of analytical and creative personalities.
You would surmise at this point, and you would be correct, that I had planned on attending law school to fulfill my dream. Indeed, I was accepted and on my way to move to Boston when ….. BAM …… the hurried onset of fibro symptoms which had been slowly emerging in a most perplexing manner, weaving a strange pattern of pain, fatigue, memory fuzziness, stiffness, and weakness into the tapestry of my life … put a stop to my career plans.
At first, I lied by omission to people about the reason I didn’t move to Boston and told them it was entirely due to a financial concern. But the truth was more money could be borrowed and my oldest brother who always had supported my academic endeavors both emotionally and financially would have sacrificed much more to ensure my career success.
How could I tell him what I didn’t even understand myself — my body and my mind were failing me? I was ashamed and felt that I was failing all those who believed in me — family, friends, and mentors. Doctors didn’t know the reason for the strange array of symptoms, indeed, they kept telling me that it was all in my head, that I just couldn’t handle the stress. gasp! I desired to be a lawyer and I couldn’t handle stress? How could I handle the most stressful year in law school, known as the 1-L?
But what the experts did not know, and I was yet to learn, is that GOD had other plans for me. I had no Plan B, but the Divine did.
The Divine was providing me a new path to integrate the magical with the logical. Experience had to be had first, to learn the metaphysical, to personally experiment with ideas unbeknownst to me. The only thought that kept me going at that time was “things happen for a reason.” That was all I had as I felt I was losing everything. Perhaps there was a greater reason for it.
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You have now come to the end of Path 1 of the ZOO. The Digression road was windy, but perhaps informative. Thank you for taking this road.
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